EVERYTHING…

It was never about lacking anything – It was always about discovering what was already there. She realized that the rumble of restlessness had dissipated when she wandered into an empty room and it was filled with nothing but her…and she was enough. The stripes of her journey boldly engraved upon her soul merged into…

Soul Journeys

As the mother of two adult children, I am continually discovering their individuality with wonder, amazement and pride. I am sharing their lives with them and very few things on this earth make me happier than that. I realize that not all adult children include, or even want, their parents in their lives. Parenting adults…

Remembering My Aunt Ollie

My aunt Ollie passed away on October 22, 2017 in New York. She was my father’s sister and, who I considered, a bridge to my mysterious paternal history. Her brother, my biological father, is not the man who raised me – my wonderful and loving step dad, Richard, was and he was the only father…

LEAVING THE ASHES BEHIND

My rebirth has required my death – The death of my soul and my spirit. My transformation has commanded my mortal being to reshape and renew itself on more than one occasion in my life. This time is no different. My life has consisted of a series of hard knocks and “what the hell’s.” And…

Black Does Crack

We’ve bought into the lie. The one that tells us that “Black don’t crack.” Oh yeah, I know what’s meant by that – it’s meant as a quasi compliment that we … us…black folks manage to retain our youthful, unwrinkled, line-free skin well past middle age and into our senior years. “Black don’t crack” has…

The Love Letter

Beloved, A resting bitch face? – so they say. Maybe. But it doesn’t matter anyway. Their opinion of you is irrelevant. You don’t owe them your smile. It’s reserved for whom and when you choose. Just because he may speak to you and you may even speak back, Doesn’t mean he gets to inhale your time and invade your space You don’t owe…

Middle Age: What Happened to Our Men?

Recently, my close friend Wendy and I had a conversation. She brought something to my attention that really matters. She shared with me that during a social event that she was at, she noticed the number of middle aged (40’s, 50’s and up) who were in attendance were, predominately Black men, who were very out…

A Glass of Wine and Random Thoughts

The other night I was in a very reflective mood. I began to think about a few things that randomly popped into my head as I sipped on a wonderful glass of Merlot. It seems like the more Merlot I sipped, the more reflective I became. Yes! I decided that material for my next blog…

Watering Your Own Garden

I think I’m finally getting the hang of this “getting older” thing. Yeah, I’m starting to really see some perks of being a woman over 50. Besides the fact that I’m happier and feel sexier than ever (at least in my eyes I am and those are the only eyes that really matter!), I’m also…

EVOLUTION: SHEDDING REQUIRED

I didn’t make any – not one – resolution for this New Year.  I realized that I was just fine in 2016 the way I was and it’s good enough for 2017.   I’d come to the decision long before January 1st rolled in that I wasn’t interested in “resolutions” as much as I was intent…