KEEP THE CROWN, I’M A WARRIOR: No Approval Needed

I used to wear a crown – it was shiny and golden and most times, it was only visible to my eyes. But then some man or another, who called himself a king, would obviously see my crown and call me a queen: “My queen, you are beautiful and I want to be with you.”…

THE LOST AND FOUND

In my attempt at living my best life, I’ve managed to lose some things along the way. Even when I wasn’t always living my best life, I still managed to lose them – maybe that was the point.  I don’t think it was intentional or even a conscious decision. These things just simply went away…

WHISPER SWEET THINGS TO MY SOUL

If you’ve ever said a kind, loving word or offered support and patience to a friend, relative or stranger, then you know what it means to extend compassion. If a friend, relative or stranger has ever done the same to you, then you know what it feels like to receive it. It is the exchange…

A Spiritual Awakening

On Resurrection Sunday, I am reminded of days gone by…days when we used to call it Easter Sunday. I’m not sure when that changed, but I’m sure the meaning is still the same. I remember freshly washed, pressed and Shirley temple curled hair that was partially hidden underneath an Easter bonnet, pristine white gloves, big…

Middle Age: Living and Loving It

Okay, so let’s consider and define exactly what “Middle Age” is: Webster’s dictionary defines middle age as “the period in a person’s life from about age 40 to about age 60.” Well, I trust Merriam-Webster’s dictionary, so I’ll take her word for it, but I wouldn’t have guessed that 40 was considered middle age, but…

NO PEACE IN PERFECTION: PERFECTLY FLAWED

Who lied to you? Who told you that you had to be perfect? Who was the culprit that told you that you had to know it all, do it all, have it all and be it all?  When did we begin to believe that in order to be accepted, we had to look a certain…

WHAT’S ON YOUR “TO DO” LIST FOR 2015?

It’s January, 2015 – the start of a brand new year. We made it! This is the time of declarations and promises to change or improve upon things in our lives that fell by the wayside last year. This is the time that we resolve to do better, give more, stop doing, start doing, speak…

DO BLACK LIVES MATTER TO OTHER BLACKS?

For the past several weeks I have watched the protests sparked by the decision of the grand jury to not indict Officer Darrin Wilson for the shooting death of Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri.  These protests were not only in Ferguson, but in many other cities throughout the country and even around the world. Protesters…

MISSING COLORS IN MY RAINBOW

I am the oldest of three daughters and I am the only surviving sibling. I grew up in the Bronx with my parents and my two younger sisters, Audrey and Allison. It was not a coincidence that all three of our names begin with the letter A. Not only did my mother do this on…

BEING INVISIBLE – NOT ALWAYS A BAD THING

I recently read something that was written by a man who was painfully describing his feelings on being invisible. He described himself as divorced, stocky, balding and middle-aged and stated that women look past him everywhere he goes. He was clearly feeling deflated and unhappy with his perceived invisibility and he explained that he didn’t…